16 Ways to Use Better Body Language
In accordance with my article last week (Do You Make These 9 Mistakes In Conversation?), This time I will discuss the importance of using good body language. Fixing body language can make a big difference when someone assess your personality. Good body language can show that you have the skills, allure and a positive mood. For example: if you smiled, you will feel happier. If you sit up straight, you will feel more energetic. If you slow down your movement (no hurry), you will feel calmer.
Broadly speaking, body language consists of how you sit, how you stand, the way you use your hands and feet, as well as what you do when talking to someone.
Below are some of the body language you need to consider when talking to someone:
1. Do not cross your legs and your arms.
You've probably heard that cross your arms or legs may indicate that you are covered against the other person and it does not establish a good conversation. Always open your arms and legs.
2. Make eye contact, but not looking at him.
Make eye contact with the other person you can make a relationship conversation becomes better and you can see if they're listening to you or not. But also not to look at him (continuous), because it will make the other person you become restless.
If you are not accustomed to making eye contact on the other person you are, indeed you will feel discomfort in the very first. But do it on and you'll get used someday.
3. Make the distance between your feet.
Give the distance between the legs (not sealed) both in a standing or sitting position shows that you are quite confident and comfortable with your position.
4. Relax your shoulders.
When you feel tense, you will also feel the tension in your shoulders. Usually seen from the position of the shoulders are slightly raised and moved ahead. Try to loosen the tension by moving your shoulders and retrace back to back or leaning position.
5. Nod when the other person you are speaking.
Nodding signifies that you are being listened to. But that does not mean you nod excessive (continuous and fast) like a woodpecker :), because you will look like a made-up.
6. Do not bend over, sit up straight.
Bowing indicates that you are not passionate, and erect here means keep it within the relaxed, not tense.
7. Lean, but not too much.
If you want to show that you are interested in what is conveyed by the other person you are, your body leans slightly toward him. But do not be too biased because you look like will ask for something.
If you want to show that you are quite confident and relaxed, lean your body slightly to the rear. But also do not be too biased, because you will look arrogant.
8. Smile and laugh.
Bercerialah, do not be too serious. Relaxed, smiling and even laughing if someone tell me something funny. People will tend to listen to you if you are seen as a positive person. But do not be the first person to laugh if you own a funny story to tell her, because you will be impressed nervous and as for pity.
Smile when you meet someone, but do not also smiled continuously as you will be considered to save something behind your smile.
9. Keep your head straight position.
Do not look down when you talk to someone. You'll look like uncomfortable talking to the other person and also looks like someone who is not confident.
10. Do not rush.
This can apply to anything. For those of you who have a habit of going fast, occasionally try to slow down your path. In addition you will look more calm and confident, you will feel your stress level is reduced.
11. Avoid movements that show that you are nervous.
Such as touching your face, wiggle your leg or tapping your fingers on the table quickly. Such movements show that you are nervous and can distract the other person or people are talking to you.
12. Use your hands effectively.
Instead you use your hand to things that can distract other person, as mentioned in point 11 above, it is better you use your hands to help clarify what you say.
13. Lower the glass of your drink.
Often we talk to someone while holding a glass of drink in front of our chests. This attitude is somewhat less good because it will make the 'distance' pretty much between you and your interlocutors. Lowered the glasses you drink, even if you have to hold it up near the foot.
14. Do not stand too close.
In my article: How to Know Someone Being Lied, I had a chance to review a little bit that people who change position became too close to each other to be signaling that he is hiding something or has a specific purpose. In addition the course will make the interlocutor becomes uncomfortable. Always keep a distance of 'privacy' between you and your interlocutors.
15. Reflecting.
In books about sales, I often find on the terms of this prism. The bottom line when two people connect and engage talks were positive, they are not aware of each prism with one another. In a sense you will be a little mimic other person's body language, and vice versa.
You can also perform proactive glass technique (consciously) to further improve the quality of your relationship and your interlocutors. For example, if the other person you are slightly leaning forward, you can also lean your body forward. If the person you put one hand on the table, you can also do the same. But still keep in mind, do not do the mock movement with a very short lag time and almost all movements imitated. The other person you'll see something strange and looked like a circus. :)
16. Always keep your attitude.
What do you feel will be channeled through the language of the body and can be a big difference to the quality of your relationship and your interlocutors. Instead, keep a positive attitude, open and relaxed.
Keep in mind that you can change your body language is not good, of course, as long as you understand that to create a new habit requires a process. Do not also try to do everything at once because it will make you confused and tired.
Focus only on the 2-3 body language into your priorities and improve continuously for 3-4 weeks. After that time you will create a new habit. Then you can resume it again for the next 2-3 body language.
