How to Know If Someone Is Lying?
Being able to know someone is lying to you will greatly help your life for the better. Try to imagine for a moment ...
- Do you have an uncomfortable feeling if you can not immediately tell that someone is telling a lie to you?
- Do you live a life where you communicate with many people and sometimes you have a feeling like someone was lying to you but you can not identify who?
Actually, the answer is simple. Take a look at the movements of the other person you are, look at the eyes and smile. Why? Because ... .. body language can not lie.
I'm sure we all have to get an experience in which we listen to someone talking and although the words sounded reasonable and real, but there is 'something' that tells us that it looks like this guy is not telling the truth. 'Something' is actually a message from the brain that wants to protect us. Our brain has a remarkable ability to read quickly all that we see and describe the signs / signals. The more we train our brain to analyze something, the more quickly and accurately the ability of our brain.
There are two ways people interact with each other: the words and body language. Sometimes one of two ways to dominate the other, but usually they act in concert together. Briefly how it works is as follows: after the brain analyzes the words and the body language of our speaker, the brain sends a message to us, which will make us react positively or negatively as suspicion, belief or doubt.
When 2 in this way, words and body language shows a synchronization, which means that we and the other person we managed to get an effective communication and information submitted is an honesty. But what if there is a contradiction between the words spoken by the way we say it? I've read that there are more than 1 million of body language. So we're here to talk about signs / signals are enormous. But again as I said above, the more often we analyze the body language, the more proficient we also define whether we're talking the other person lies or honesty. Sometimes we have to combine 2 to 3 body language to get an accurate conclusion.
Before we talk more about how to know someone is lying or not, it's good to know in advance the type 4 liar:
1. Occasional Liar
We've all lied during life. Occasional liar is not used to lying, just for some reason they do it, probably because he wanted to protect himself, his friends, his loved ones or someone else. Keep in mind that behind every lie there is always a fear. Fear to face a reality. Occasional liar really thought about what he would say so seem to make sense. But because they are not used to lying, body language still shows many signs / signals that indicate that they are lying. So it is not too difficult to identify the type of liar like this.
2. Liars Many times
Liar many times are the ones who lie 'regularly'. Unlike the occasional liar, liar many times do not have time to think about the lies because they lied throughout his life. But they actually realize that they are lying. These people are often stuck with their actions that are inconsistent with what they say.
3. Natural Liar
Natural liars are those who lie constantly and often they do not realize that they are lying. Their body language looks very natural, because it used to lie. But when they are pressed with questions cornering, body language shows a contradiction that identify that they're hiding something. Type somewhat similar to a natural liar liar many times. Maybe you've heard the term 'knowingly', so this is just one example of the type of natural liar.
4. Professional Liar
Type this liar lie for a particular purpose or intentionally want to deceive us. They studied all the possibilities and know exactly what they want to say. They create scenarios, taking into account the risk of failure and make contingency plans. Although they are trained to use body language, but there is always there are little things that are missed by them. We can know the little things are frequently observed of course. One example of this is the type of liar like salesman, apologize in advance that I mean here is that too much salesman to promote a product when the product itself has a very low quality. Another example is the politicians are corrupt, they are deliberately deceiving the public for personal gain.
How can you tell that someone is lying?
No need to be a psychologist to be able to learn and to know that someone is speaking lies or honesty. A psychologist who are proficient can know exactly the patient is lying or not, such as a psychologist who interviewed Princess Diana at the time. He stated that Princess Diana was telling the truth when interviewed about the infidelity of her husband, Prince Charles.
You can analyze like that with constant practice course. Psychologists can be because they are used to read and analyze people every day.
As mentioned above there are 1 million different body language, I'll summarize some common ones that demonstrate that someone is lying or not:
1. The position of the body can be evidence to show that the person is lying, because consciously or unconsciously there is a strong relationship between thought and expression.
2. Breath sudden. In every lie, your heart rate will increase and the breath will become shallow / rapid. Usually liar will take a deep breath to calm feelings. This method was also applied by the lie detector machine, by measuring the heart rate of people who are being interrogated / interviewed.
3. Anxiety in parts of the body. This can be seen in various ways, depending on the person. Nervous movements that will attract our attention, especially can we feel when we talk to someone we know and the individual movements are not as usual. Here is an example of unease in parts of the body:
- Movement of the body back and forth, whether in a sitting or standing position.
- Position suddenly changed. For example, our speaker was crossing one leg over the other leg, and when it started to answer our question, he changed the position of his feet. People who lie, even if he is a professional, will feel discomfort when she was lying. The body will always adjust our feelings without us knowing, so position suddenly changed this is a good signal that indicates that the person is lying.
- The movements are not aware of the hands and feet. For example: shaking legs, shaking hands on the table, both hands firmly glued together, mutual thighs pressed together. If the person we're in a sitting position and then he changed the direction of your foot to the other, it is also a sign that the person is lying.
- A smile is fake. The smile is synonymous with intimacy and trust, and liars often abuse it. So how to distinguish a smile liar? The liar will usually smile quite frequently and abruptly, which is actually not in place he had to smile.
- Too many actions 'matey', such as patting your back, touching you or in your closer position. The other person will feel awkward when you lie so they will hide kekikukannya to perform such acts. It would be very difficult to decide that the person is lying if he committed acts that friends like that. It is a natural human response. But still keep in mind, that if you feel that the familiarity of the other person you are redundant, beware.
One again, a very popular proverb says that "when someone is lying will be obvious in his eyes.", You may also have heard of it. But for me this way is quite difficult than the above methods.
Dear readers, hopefully later when you're talking to someone, you have to analyze whether the person is lying to you or not. :)
